IDAN 'DANKA KO 'YARKA SUN KAI SHEKARUN FARKO NA TASHEN BALAGA, TO KA LURA DA WANNAN:
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1. Duk lokacin da yaro ko yarinya suka kai matakin tashen balaga wato "early adolescence", musamman daga shekara 11, 12 zuwa 13... 18... To wannan shi ne lokaci mafi hatsari ga yara da iyayensu.

2. A lokacin ne yaro yake samun zama na gari ko na banza, me amfanar da al'umma ko me cutar da su.

3. Yaro ya fi tasirantuwa da abokansa ko kawayenta fiye da malamansa ko mahaifansa.

4. Yaro yana jin shima daidai yake da kowa a duniya, kuma zai iya yin komai kamar yadda kowa yake yi, haka ita ma yariyar.

5. A lokacin ne yaro yake neman 'yanci daga ikon mahaifansa akansa. Yana son dakinsa daban, wajen kwanciyarsa da ban, abinci, kayan sakawa da aski sai wanda ransa yake so.

6. A lokacin ne yake jin karfinsa ya kawo, kuma zai iya ja da kowa.

7. A lokacin yaro komai yana yin sa ne gaga-gaga, ba kan gado babu nutsuwa, kuma ba wanda ya isa ya hana shi (a tinaninsa), idan kuma iyaye ba su bi hanyar da ta dace ba, to za su sha wahala da shi/ita.
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MAFITA:
1. Iyaye su ja yaronsu a jiki, kuma su yi amfani da hikima wajen yi masa gyara da tarbiyyarsa.

2. Kar su nuna masa karfi ko iko, domin zai iya baudare musu, a karshe ya haifar musu da hawan jini.

3. A kula sosai da su waye abokansa, ko kawayenta. A hada shi da na gari, a raba shi da na banza.

4. A samar masa da aikin yi, wajen nuna masa yadda zai dogara da kansa (koda kuwa dan masu kudi ne ahi).

5. A tsara masa ayyukan da zai ke yi a kullun tun daga safe zuwa rana, i.e. makaranta, bacci, cin abinci, ziyara, hutu, da sauransu.

6. Iyaye su zama abokan 'yayansu wajen bincikar matsalolin 'yayan, da magance musu ita.

7. Ka da a hana yaro wani abu, face sai a maye masa gurbinsa da wani, idan ba haka ba, to zai yi wanda aka hana shi muni.

8. Kar ayi amfani da karfi, da duka, da tsattsauran hukunci wajen ladabtar da shi, har sai idan abu ya ta'azzara, sai a je da shi guidance and counseling domin neman shawarwari.

9. Ake tunatar da su ayoyin alqur'ani da hadisan Manzo s.a.w. da sukai magana akan biyayyar iyaye.

10. Sannan ake hadawa da addu'ar nema musu shiriya da nagarta a wajen Allah s.w.t.
Wallahu a'alam.

 

shawara ga ma'aurata mata

Ki zamo mace ta gari ta kwarai ki zamo mai samawa mai gidanki farin ciki karki sa masa tashin hankali da bacin rai karki zagi mijinki karki yi abinda zai bata masa rai Musamman wajan kwanciya wasu matan suna azabtar da mazajensu ta wannan hanya wata in bai neme taba ba zata Kai kantaba wai ba aji waya gaya miki kyaje wajen Jan ajin matsa sha'awa ko bai niyyar yi ba yaji yana bukarta yayi kuma ta haka hankalinsa zai dawo jikinki ko yaushe yaji yana so ya kasance da ke ki kula garin Neman gira a rasa Ido.

SIRRIN MIJINKI

DOMIN KARIN NI'IMA

irin wannan hadin shine ake Kira sa maigida kuwwa yana matukar saurin kawowa mace ni'ima.

zogale.

zuma

nono.

ki busar da zogelenki amma ba a cikin Rana ba, ki daka shi Yayi laushi sosai Zaki iya tankadawa sai ki rinka dibar cokali daya kina zibawa a nono ki zuba zuma cokali (³) a ciki ki rinka sha wannan hadin yaaj matukar Kara wa mace ni'ima sosai da lafiya.

GYARAN JIKI

gyaran mace yana matukar muhimmanci a tare da ke yar'uwa kada ki Bari fatar jikinki ta koma tamkar ta wata tsohuwa.

ganyen dalbejiya.

lalle.

zuma.

man zaitun.

sabulun gana.

dudu osun.

ki hada su guri daya ki daka a cikin turmi mai tsafta, sai ki rinka wanke da shi Zaki ga yadda fatarki zata canza.

GYARAN GASHI

wacce gashin kanta ke yawan karewar sai ta samu man dalbejiya ba tare da kin hada masa komai ba kullum da dare sai ki rinka shafawa yana Hana zubewar gashi.

BABBAN SHAWARA GA MATA

SHAWARA GA MATA 

ki zamo mace mai riko da addinin musulunci kar ki zamo mai wasa da ibada ki bautawa Allah kamar kina ganinsa ki Sani in kin kasance bakya ganinsa to shi yana ganinki ki maida lamuranki ga Allah karki yi yawan bin  BOKA KO MALAM kamar yadda wasu matan suke yi ko bin bokaye da yan bori yin hakan ba zai Kara miki komai ba asara da tabewa..

ashe baki kyamarsa kuma baki gudunsa kema haka zaki aji ranki in ya yi maki kuma yinsa yana taka rawar gani wajen motsa sha'warku, kuma ita kiss nan bawai sai baki da baki ne kawai ake yinta ba ko ina a jikin mijinki zaki iya yi masa, shima kuma miji zai iya kiss matarsa a ko ina ajikinta kamarsu.

NONONTA, 

BAKINTA,

FUSKARTA,

GOSHINTA,

CIBIYARTA,

DA DAI SAURANSU;

kuma yana daga cikin manya-manya abubuwanda ke kara dankon soyayya tsakanin mata da miji da kuma motsa sha'awa,kuma alama ce dake nuna irin tsananin son da kikewa mijinki shima kuma haka lalle wannan ba karamar dabara bace,ki jaraba uwar gida zaki dace da yarda Allah.

*ABIN LURA*

mata da yawa suna manta wanna bansan ko kunya bace tasa bata kiss kiss yanada amfani ga miji yar'uwa inda bakiyi ki gwada koda sau daya ne zaki sha mamaki.

• kamar su, fuskarta, bakinta, nononta, goshinta, cibiyarta.

Ga wasu ‘yan kadan Zan lissafo:

1. *RASHIN GABATAR DA WASANNI KAFIN JIMA’I:*

Wannan ba daidai bane domin kuwa Manzon Allah (saww) yace “IDAN ‘DAYANKU YAYI NUFIN KUSANTAR IYALINSA, TO LALLAI A SAMU ‘DAN AIKE A TSAKANINSU”.

Sai Sahabbai suka ce “Wanne irin ‘dan aike?” Sai yace “SHI NE SUMBA (KISS) DA KUMA MUBASHARA (RUNGUMAR JUNA).

Rashin gabatar da irin wadannan wasannin yakan haifar da rashun gamsuwar Jima’i. Shi kuwa rashin gamsuwar Jima’i yakan haifar da matsalolin da zasu kawo rabuwar auren.

Yana daga cikin fa’idodin gabatar da wadannan

wasannin, zai sa Maniyyin ita Macen ya gangaro daga ainihin inda yake, sannan kuma za ta samu cikakkiyar gamsuwa.

2. *KUSKURE NA BIYU SHI NE TSOTSON AL’AURAR JUNA:*

Wannan kuskure ne babba wanda ko dabbobi basu yinsa. Duk da cewa babu wata ayah ko hadisi wanda ya fito karara ya yi bayani akan haramcin wannan, to amma Malamai sun yi sabani sun kasu gida biyu akan hukuncin yin hakan, kuma sun raba hukuncin gida

biyu:

Idan har ya kai ga shan Maniyyi to Malaman Malikiyyah da Hanafiyyah sun ce HARAMUN ne. Domin su a wajensu Maniyyi najasa ne. Kuma bai halatta Musulmi ya shigar da najasa cikin cikinsa ba.

Idan kuma Maziyyi ne aka tsotsa, to dukkan Malamai sun ce HARAMUN ne. domin kuwa shi Maziyyi najasa

ne abisa ittifakin Malamai bai daya.

Idan kuma ba a tsotsi Maziyyi ko maniyyi ba, to Malaman da suke bayar da fatawa a Jami’ar Az’har sun ce MAKRUHI NE.

Wasu kuma irin su Nasiruddeen Albaniy sun ce HARAMUN NE duk da hakan.

3. *KUSKURE NA UKU SHINE YIN SURUTAI A LOKACIN JIMA’I 

Shi ma wannan ba daidai bane. Shari’ar addinin Musulunci ta hana mutum ya rika yin magana a lokacin da yake tsirara.

4. KUSKURE NA HUDU SHI NE RASHIN LULLUBE JUNA DA MAYAFI: Shima wannan ba daidai bane. yin hakan ya yi kama da Jima’in dabbobi kenan.

5. *KUSKURE NA BIYAR SHINE RASHIN AMBATON ALLAH KAFIN FARA JIMA’I 

Ya kamata Ma’aurata su kula da yin Bismillah tare da karanta addu’ar nan wacce Manzon Allah (saww) yace duk wanda yake karantawa yayin Jima’i da matarsa, to indai aka samu rabo, to shaitan ba zai iya cutar da yaron ba.

Ga addu’ar nan: “BISMILLAHI ALLAHUMMA JANNIBNASH SHAITAN WA JANNIBISH SHAITANA MA RAZAQTANA”.

6. *KUSKURE NA SHIDA:*

idan Miji ya biya bukatarsa, to bai kamata ya gaggauta sauka ba, har sai ita ma matarsa ta biya bukatarta.

7. *RASHIN SAUYA YANAYIN KWANCIYA:*

Shi ma wannan ayar Alqur’ani ta bada damar miji ya sadu da matarsa bisa kowanne irin yanayi. A tsaye ko azaune ko a kwance ko a tsugunne, mutukar dai ba ta dubura

bane. Don haka ya halatta Ma’aurata su rika chanza yanayin kwanciyarsu saboda kara ma juna nishadi.

8. *KUSKURE NA TAKWAS SHINE SADUWA A LOKACIN DA TAKE CIKIN JININ HAILA, KO JININ

HAIHUWA 

Allah (SWT) ya ce : “KU NISANCI MATA A LOKACIN HAILA. KAR KU KUSANCESU HAR SAI SUNYI TSARKI”.

9. *KUSKURE NA TARA SHINE SADUWA TA DUBURA:*

Shi ma wannan kazanta ce wacce ko dabbobi basu yi. Manzon Allah (saww) ya ce “TSINANNE NE DUK WANDA YA SADU DA MAI HAILA, KO KUMA YA SADU DA

MACE TA DUBURA”.

1 a duba a gani baya da ciwon sugar?

saboda cutar sugar tana sabbabar da raunin al'aura.

in yana da ciwon sugar a kwai maganin da zaiyi amfani da shi.

2 sai a duba yana da basir?

In yana da shi akwai hanyoyin da ake bi a magance shi.

3 a duba a gani baya da gajiya da talauci? ko yawan aiki ko damuwa domin shima yana kawo raunin al'aura saboda hankalin bai natsuba balle yayi sha'awa.

*KA DAURE KAYI WADANNAN MAGANIN MAIGIDA*

ciwon sugar

○ man hulba 

○ zaitu ( jonifer oil )

○ habba yar'algeriya ,

○ zaitu lauz

sai a hada su waje daya kafi ya kwanta da dare da awa daya zai samu madara musamman na luna, sai a dumama su tare da zuma sai a gauraya shi a sha.

da safe kafin a karya, za'a dace insha Allah.

inda kuma babu ciwon sugar yana son ya samu kusancin matansa sai ya samo hulba tare da matan zasu sha tare kafin su kwanta da awa daya wanna yana taimakawa.

damuwa sai a rage ta sosai da shan sugari duk.

MAGANIN BUSHEWAR GABAN MACE 

gamai samun daukewar ni'ima da rashin sanin dadin aure ko rashin nishadi to amarya ko uwar gida ga yanda zaki magance wadannan matsaloli cikin sauki, sai ki samu:

-aya

-zuma

-dabino

-garin sallaja

sai ki markadesu ki tacesu sai ki rinka diba kadan-kadan kina hadawa da zuma da garin habba kadan kina sha safe da yamma, wadda batayi aure ba kada tasha.mijinki zai ji kin canza sosai.

DON MAGANCE ZAFIN SADUWA:

wannan wani hadi ne da akeyi don magance zafin saduwa ko rashin sha'awa ko daukewar ni'ima

-dabino

-garin ridi

-garin habba

-da garin raihan

sai a samu zuma lita daya a hadasu wuri daya a rinka sha cokali daya a ruwan shayi safe da yamma

(1) akwai wacce tana sha awar namiji hasalima ko zancen jima i tayi da namiji koda a wayane ko a chat zataji farjinta ya jike alamun sha awa zata bayyana a fuskarta zataji sha war namiji ya sadu da ita amma da zaran na miji ya saka azzakarinsa a farjinta saita rasa ina dadin yake ita wannan tana bukatar kyakyawar kulawar soyayya a wajen mijinta ya kamata mijinki yasan hanyoyin Wato sarrafa mace da sanin wurarenda mace takeso namiji ya taba ajikinta musamman lokacin jima i kuma soyayya itama tanada muhimmanci awannan lokacin wato tana saka mace jindadin jima'i.

(2) sannan akwai wacce ita kuma kwata kwata bata sha awa ita ko za ayi wata daya ko biyu ba a tabataba batada matsala idan kin samu kanki acikin wannan halin akwai tambaya akanki kina mafarkin namiji? kinada jinnu ma ana suna tashi? idan duk babu daya to kici gaba da shan maganin karin sha awa amma wanda zaki hada da kanki wannan duk muna bayaninsu apost to idan kuma kina mafarki ko kinada jinnu suma suna daukewa mace sha awa ta zahiri saboda surinka saduwa da ita amafarki sannan zasu iya barin mijinki ya rinka jin dadinki idan sunga dama shima su hanashi saiya rinka jinki salam kamar ba maceba ko kuma su hanaki ni ima lokacin saduwa saiki bushe sai anyi da karfi ta shiga gaskkiya wannan matsalace kuma wani lokacin sihiri akeyiwa mace hakan take faruwa kiyi kokari ayi miki rukuya wacce ta dace da sunna kema kici gaba da addu a kuma kina kwaciya da alwaa idan zaki kwanta ki karanta wasu ayoyi daga cikin qur ani sannan kina share shimfida kafin kwanciya kuma keda mai gida ku rinka addu a kafin ku fara jima i insha allahu zakiyi mamaki

(3) haka kuma akwai mace wacce tana sha awar namiji amma ta fiso ya saka mata yatsa a farjinta tafi jindadi idan ya saka mata azzakarinsa sai taji dadin ya ragu kuma irinsu zaka samesu da bushewar. farji to irin wannan itamma tana bukatar kulawa ta musamman daga wajen mijinta sannan kada kiyi. wasa da gyaran jiki da kuma tsaftar farji to amma inaso ki gane shifa jin dadin jima i ya danganta dagake wato ina nufin yaya sha awarki take yawan sha awarki shine yawan jindadinki yana iyakasancewa haka allah ya haliccceki dama sha awarki gajeriyace ba iirin ta sauran mataba sai kiji kawarki tana baki labari jin dadinda takeyi a wajen jima i to zai iya kasancewa dama ta fiki sha awa ko kuma tafiki samun kulawa a wajen mijinta kinga kada kice dole sai kinji dadi irin nata....

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